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Hahaha, was that an edit? It seemed like a reiteration of how much of an ignorant, victim-blaming, offensive asshat you are. Glad you learned NOTHING and still feel the need to belittle victim’s self-worth, self-respect, and general self-esteem because they are not seen as “true rape victims” in your mind. You continue to spew the poison that engenders rape culture and victim blaming, and as a survivor I can honestly say that you are the worst kind of idiot.

Yeah … it so wasn’t an edit at all. Those were kind of my thoughts. I don’t know. I have a hard time believing that they could have read through everything that I said, and yet still say what they said, ESPECIALLY in this “edit.” I appreciate that they acknowledged that rape is not always violent and there are different types of force, but that’s just about all they did. They clearly have an inflated head that won’t allow them to accept the possibility that they are WRONG about something. What she said was an “opinion” was not an opinion. It was a statement of inaccurate information, which I corrected. Shaking my head.

Ugh. that was the scary thing for me, was that she acknowledged that there are different types of force, and that rape isn’t always physically violent, but that there’s a distinction made, as in “but those weren’t the rapes I was talking about”. You can’t just dismiss people’s experiences like that!

It sucks, because I actually think she has a seed of a legitimate point, in that there are people that exaggerate or misconstrue a situation into rape or sexual assault when maybe it wasn’t in the first place. That is one of the worst kinds of lies because it trivializes and raises the suspicions of hundreds of other, legitimate cases. So yes, that behavior of essentially lying about rapes is disgusting. I’m shocked that it’s even frequent enough to merit a call-out. But on the flip-side, how can we really know what happened? We weren’t there between those two people (abuser and victim), and the language used in the OP is incredibly dangerous and destructive for ALL victims. It doesn’t matter that there’s a tacked on “oh but this doesn’t apply to those who went through mental abuse or threats” because victims don’t think like that. So much of that post is literally an insidious reel that plays in my own mind, and I’m sure other survivor’s minds as well, that your self-worth is entirely dependent on whether or not you let a person rape you. Or, the even more dangerous question the OP brings up, that you panic about asking: Was it really rape? [Victims/Survivors reading this, please know that if you have ever, EVER felt uncomfortable in a situation sexually and you were forced or coerced in some manner - physical, mental - to do something you did not want to do, that you objected to, then please know that I do not doubt for a minute that you are a victim, and I’m always here to listen and offer comfort of whatever kind I can.]

Urgh. Lying about rape is despicable, but I also think people should moderate their language and posts and really LEARN from responses (yours especially) to STOP victim blaming and belittling what are often legitimate claims.

I wish I had written a more eloquent response to this, I’m sorry.

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